The journey of MCS is often a lonely one. It is a journey plagued by solitude and isolation. The hardest part for those of us who have multiple illnesses and MCS is finding empathy and understanding from our loved ones. Too often our family and friends become overwhelmed and uncomfortable with everything that affects us so they disengage and relationships are damaged.
Many times we feel guilty for having to ask family and friends to make accommodations for us. Some of us value our relationships so much that we would rather deal with the unbearable symptoms after an exposure then speak up and sound offensive by our requests. It is a cycle of self destruction. We place others first at the expense of our own health…until we crash and end up in a hospital or breathing through and oxygen mask.
After months of being very sick following an exposure, everything begins to settle in. We may be told by our physician that we have to practice extreme chemical avoidance.
Some are prescribed oxygen tanks to use at home, some have to be hospitalized until symptoms settle and all functions are stable. In every case it is different but symptoms are usually quite severe before we are forced to speak up.
Below are some things to keep in mind when you want to visit someone with severe chemical sensitivities or Multiple Chemical Sensitivity (MCS) – Toxicant Induced Loss of Tolerance (TILT).
Before we can proceed I must ask. Do you know what MCS/TILT is and how severely it affects people? Before continuing please click here to read about this debilitating illness.
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Now that you know what MCS is here are some guidelines you can follow when going to visit someone with MCS/TILT. Please note that not all people will need to follow this extent of precaution. Each person is at a different stage of their illness so I recommend that you share this list with them and have them tell you the things that they would like you to do prior to visiting.
Procedures for the day you are planning to visit:
Clothing and Laundry
Wash all clothing you plan on wearing at least twice to remove any residue of perfumes, laundry detergent, fabric softeners etc.
Clothing should be washed in a washing machine on the largest setting with 4 cups of baking soda. You can also add a fragrance free liquid detergent like Seventh Generation Free & Clear
Do not use another brand of detergent even if it says “Scent Free” because the manufacturing companies use chemical masking agents to cover up the chemical smells used in their products.
Do not use any fabric softer. Dry clothes and put them on just before you are ready to leave home.
Clean the body and wash your hair in fragrance free castile soap like this one or like this one found at Walmart. Do not use any of your shampoos, conditioner, hair styling creams, moose, leave in conditioners or detanglers in your hair. You can also use Dr. Bronner’s liquid or bar soaps, True Body Unscented Soap or Kiss My Face Fragrance-Free Soap bars.
Moisturizing Conditioning & Deodorant
Ask the person with MCS if they can tolerate refined coconut oil or grapeseed oil. If they do, you can use these oils to moisturize your skin and condition your hair after coming out of the shower. Refined coconut oil has less of a smell and is tolerated by many people with MCS as is pure grapeseed oil.
Do not use any type of store-bought deodorant. You can mix a pinch of baking soda in 6 tablespoons of water and apply with a rag under your arms. You can also slice a lime or lemon and rub under your arms. Some people with MCS can tolerate fragrance free deodorants but always ask them before applying.
Makeup should be avoided unless it is mineral based and fragrance free and it is approved by the person with MCS. Some people can tolerate a fragrance free lip balm and mineral based blush but others may not be able to so always ask before using any cosmetic products.
Do not use any shaving creams, moisturizer, beard wax or aftershave. If you need to shave do so a few days before your visit or if you must shave the day of your visit you can mix grapeseed oil and castile soap to use as shaving cream.
Gas Stations & Perfumes
Do not stop to pump gas the day you are visiting. Petrochemical fumes stick to clothing and shoes and affect a person with MCS almost like spraying them with perfume would.
Perfumes are included in this section because over 95 percent of the chemicals in synthetic fragrances are derived from petrochemicals.
Do not use any perfume at all, not even if it is organic or all natural. Also do not use any essential oils as they contain chemical compounds that can cause reactions.
Vehicle & Home Maintenance
Remove all scented air fresheners from your vehicle at least 1 month before visiting the person with MCS. Open your car windows each day and allow the car to air out as you drive to remove any residue of chemicals. Although removing car fresheners may be beneficial to some people with MCS, there are others who react to a car’s air freshener even months after the fresheners have been removed. So always ask your friend with MCS what they prefer you to do. They may suggest to ride in someone else’s car that does not use car fresheners.
Discontinue all use of air fresheners in your home at least one month before planning your visit. This means plug ins, sprays, moth balls etc. Let your home air out each week as well by opening windows.
Do not paint your home, use chemical household cleaners, fertilizers, bug spray or disinfectants on the day you are visiting someone with MCS.
Purses & Backpacks
It is best to avoid bringing large bags when visiting as these can often pick up smells, molds and other bio contaminants from places you have visited. If possible place your identification and main items in a small wallet or zip lock bag. You can also lock your bag in the trunk of your car if you feel secure doing so.
For families traveling with children or people needing to carry many items, use a washable diaper bag, purse or backpack, and wash following the procedures mentioned above.
Upon Arriving For Your Visit
Be prepared to take off your shoes and place them in a bag, garage or on a shoe rack.
Don’t be offended or take it personal if you missed something and your host reacts with strong symptoms. Try to be as understanding and loving as possible and follow any suggestions they may give you such as washing your face, showering, changing clothes, clipping up your hair etc.…
Remember this person suffering could be you. Think about how you would like to be treated if you were in the same situation. Place yourself in their position.
Avoid making critical or judgmental comments such as:
“Oh my goodness but I thought my body wash was OK. I don’t react to it at all and I have severe allergies.”
“You are so sensitive and it seems crazy to have to do all this just to visit you.”
“Haven’t you seen a doctor already? Why aren’t you cured? You must not want to get better.”
Comments like these are a slap in the face and they are like telling someone in a wheelchair with a crippling disability that they need to walk to and from their car without using a wheelchair.
Did you know that people who suffer from TILT and MCS are protected under the Americans with Disabilities Act? These conditions are considered disabling as they severely alter a person’s quality of life, their ability to work and function properly.
Please do not discriminate against them the same way you wouldn’t discriminate against someone with muscular dystrophy, cancer, ALS or someone in a wheelchair.
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